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How Your Family Can Take Back Christmas!

written by Joe | Simplify

We had allowed Christmas to become our master, and we found ourselves enduring rather than enjoying the season. However, we decided three years ago to take back Christmas and we have loved it ever since.Over the years, Jan and I have seen the joy of Christmas turn to stress as we annually exhausted ourselves with shopping lists, shopping extravagances, and mounds of gifts to be wrapped and delivered.

We had allowed Christmas to become our master, and we found ourselves enduring rather than enjoying the season.

However, we decided three years ago to take back Christmas and we have loved it ever since.

No, we didn’t turn into Scrooges; we simply decided that we (not tradition or expectations from others) would determine how we should celebrate Christmas.

A few simple changes made a huge difference, and you can make them too:

1. Create memories instead of stuff.

Our immediate family (four grown children and their families) opted to forego our Christmas gift exchange in lieu of a family vacation – funded by the money we would have spent on gifts.  Our logic is that the memories from those vacations are infinitely more valuable than whatever stuff one receives at Christmas.

We still get together at Christmas time to share a meal, celebrate the season and enjoy a Christmas play the kids perform for us.  We also have some gifts for the kids to open.

How did it happen?  Obviously, Jan and I cannot unilaterally dictate how other families (even our own children’s families) celebrate Christmas, but this concept was an easy sell, especially after our grandson remarked a few years ago about the overabundance of gifts.

Each family, of course, still has their own Christmas traditions, but everyone was ready to try something different with our big family gathering, so exchanging stuff for memories was the perfect solution.  Hopefully, we can continue to do so for many years to come.

2. Try ‘Secret Santa’ giving.

Jan’s side of the family (including kids) all commit to blessing a needy person or family sometime during the Christmas season.  Then, when we gather on Christmas Day, we share our experiences instead of piles of presents.  These times of sharing have become very meaningful – often tearful — as we touch on the very essence of Christmas.

How did it happen?   This change has happened in stages, starting at a Thanksgiving gathering four years ago when Jan’s niece handed out $10 bills to each family member with the challenge to be a Secret Santa.  Everyone loved the experience, but never considered using it to replace the long time family tradition of everyone buying gifts for everyone else.

The next year, Jan and I handed out the $10 bills along with the thought of replacing the gift exchange with Secret Santa stories . . . a thought that was not well received; obviously this huge gift exchange was very entrenched.  But we persisted in asking the family to cut back on the gift exchange the following year and much of the family began to agree.

This year, along with our Secret Santa stories, we will have a very limited gift exchange, involving Jan’s mom (the family matriarch who will never stop buying for everyone) and the little ones.

3. Start sibling charity gifts.

My six siblings and I take turns picking a charity to support each Christmas.  This year my youngest sister selected Books for a Better World, so we each sent her a donation which she passed along to her charity of choice.  This fun tradition is simple and significant.

How did it happen?  I take zero credit for this tradition.  As my family has grown older and relocated all over the nation, our Christmas gatherings became more and more sporadic.  For years, my siblings and I drew names for a Christmas gift exchange, but, over time, the spirit of the gift exchange began to wane.  However, about seven years ago, one of my sisters came up with the sibling charity idea . . . a concept which all of us have loved ever since.

Changes are difficult, especially when Christmas traditions are deeply rooted, but Jan and I are happy to report that, over time, all of the above ideas have taken root.

We are even happier to report that joy has returned to our Christmases.

With some intentional work, your family can take back Christmas too.

Do you enjoy or endure Christmas?  What changes has your family made to take back Christmas?  What changes would you like to see happen?

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About Joe

Joe Plemon is a Certified Financial Coach and has been coaching people with money since 2006. He also served as a Money Columnist for the Southern Illinoisan newspaper since 2007. You can read more from Joe at Personal Finance by the Book on LoansOnlineUsa.net.

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